Posted by fayeroe on April 14, 2009, at 22:32:02
In reply to Why does Dr. Bob have to be professional?, posted by Deneb on April 14, 2009, at 11:10:27
> Anyways, had saw pdoc today and talked about Dr. Bob a bit before pdoc turned conversation to my Dad.
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> Pdoc said it wasn't kosher for Dr. Bob to spend alone time with me in SF. I told her how Dr. Bob ignored me when I asked if we could do something together Friday night in SF.Deneb, there are a number of reasons (my opinion) that it wouldn't be "kosher" for Dr. Bob to do something with just you on Friday in SF.
1. He is a professional and as such he does have to conduct himself in a manner of openness and transparency. When a person with high visibility is meeting with a group of people, it wouldn't be a good idea for him to spend time with one member of the group. There will be others there, as I understand it.
2. I don't know how old Dr. Bob is but I imagine that you are a "few" years younger than him. That is something that I am sure your Pdoc took into consideration.
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> She said it wasn't professional. She said Dr. Bob can't be friends with anyone here.I think that Dr. Bob can and will be friends with everyone there. There will be group activities that all will take part in..including you!! You aren't going to be alone in S.F.
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> Why can't Dr. Bob be friends with any of us? What does it mean to be professional? Why does Dr. Bob have to be professional?Dr. Bob is the "leader" of this pack at Babble. He formed this group, as a professional, for his research. For me, if I were him, I wouldn't want to "muddy" the waters very much by spending too much time with his "subjects"...one on one time..
Being professional is a term that can be used almost anywhere. I was professional when I taught at the prison..meaning that I maintained the security of the offenders, I maintained boundaries and filters in my interpersonal relationship with them. Being professional means that you take the highest standard of your job and maintain that. Bob has to do that in order to maintain the "security" of the group and the research..
Now, Bob, if you want to answer this and change it............come on up!!!
Deneb, I hope that this helps you. Pat
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