Posted by Dr. Bob on April 12, 2009, at 23:27:24
In reply to Is this even Dr Bob? » Dr. Bob, posted by verne on April 12, 2009, at 20:48:42
> You are so hellbent on getting someone to work on Jade and Verne..I'll tell you what, you tell me what you want done.
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> fayeroeThanks. Verne's back, could you show Jade how she might interpret things more charitably and encourage her to apologize? Either here or by Babblemail?
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> There's simply no way that it would be appropriate for me to ask Verne or Jade to apologise. If I did so, it would be pressure, and it would (rightly) be resisted. I can share how I see things, and that may (or may not) be helpful.
OK, I myself don't think encouragement is necessarily experienced as pressure, and even pressure isn't necessarily resisted, but I can see how it could feel kind of forward to make a direct request.
I do think sharing how you see things (if you see things more charitably) may help. And if you'd miss them, sharing that. Or, tell them how they're good for Babble? And how Babble may be good for them?
> I wonder if there is an antagonistic divisive taunting thing going on. We should be able to speak to each other with more generosity and respect.
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> SigismundI agree, and I'm trying my best.
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> If you are still there, I didn't apologize to Deneb because you encouraged it. If you'll examine the timeline, I realized what I had done and apologized within minutes (at least a half hour late at night) long before your request for "apology rehab" from the others.
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> VerneI'm still here, and I'm glad you are, too. I didn't mean to imply that I had anything to do with you apologizing to Deneb.
I did think you might be more open to apologizing here if others encouraged you, but I'm not opposed to a direct request. Would you be willing to apologize to me?
Bob
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