Posted by Cass on April 12, 2009, at 18:03:04
In reply to I think the unthinkable is starting to happen, posted by Deneb on April 12, 2009, at 17:40:19
Deneb,
I have a lot of sympathy for you because when I was younger I would get fixated on teachers or counselors who seemed kindhearted. I would fantasize a lot about them; they were sort of "savior" figures to me. I would dream that they cared deeply about me and they would rescue me and give me the guidance I needed. I had very weak parental figures. So this is what I see you doing with Dr. Bob except the only difference is that you're very open about it. I always kept it a secret except in therapy. I admire the fact that you talk about it so openly. Because I identify with you, I feel strongly that you will become more secure and develop greater self-esteem. As you get to know yourself better and know what you're values are, people will respect and acknowledge you for that. Right now you may feel vulnerable a lot, but there will come a day when you will feel much stronger within yourself. So the fixation on Dr. Bob or others will probably subside over time. Good wishes.
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