Posted by Dr. Bob on April 6, 2009, at 22:12:39
In reply to xox 4 being true to yourselves and others-jade n' (nm) » verne, posted by zenhussy on April 6, 2009, at 20:37:06
> We could avoid a lot of blocks here if people would quit 'telling on' one another; in other words, if you feel hurt or slighted - maybe just let the perceived insulter know right away rather than hitting that notify adminstrator button.
As long as you let them know in a civil way...
> ~We need to initiate a shift in Dr. Bob's mind~
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> Bob-there is just toooo much intelluctual capacity and information out there - and the rate of information change to keep up with - for any TOP DOWN organizations to survive..in the near future.Focusing on me is itself top-down...
> How about make that a rule - let the posters resolve the problem on thier own, and if that doesn't work - then do your administrative stuff.
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> Garnet71It seems not to be working this time...
> The community is being asked to find ways to "encourage" you to apologize. That sounds like public SHAMING, remninsicent of the Puritan stocks.
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> Verne> xox 4 being true to yourselves and others
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> zenhussyAnd it seems one reason posters may not resolve problems on their own is that apologizing may be seen as shameful or not being true to oneself.
Which means being blocked may be seen as a sign of being true to oneself and something to feel proud of. I guess it's not surprising if posters don't readily let go of something that makes them feel good.
So no one's going to try to help Jade and now Verne avoid being blocked? Because that wouldn't feel supportive?
Bob
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> I would ... say he's got a big ego and a raging inferority complex, along with a tiny heart and shriveled soul.
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> Sadly, an egocentric weasel has been running this site and abusing posters for years. Sometimes with tragic results.
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> Verne
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