Posted by twinleaf on March 30, 2008, at 20:56:35
In reply to Re: please rephrase that » star008 » gardenergirl » twinleaf, posted by Dr. Bob on March 30, 2008, at 17:00:19
I don't know how to rephrase it. I made sure it was an "I" message, and I said what I felt to be true. I did not name any particular posters, in order to be sure that the emphasis stayed with my own reactions to posts sent to me, rather than attempting to blame anyone else for what they said. I feel that the posters who sent these messages have an absolute right to express themselves honestly-but, at the sanme time, I also have an equal right to react to what they have said honestly. When you are considering civility actions, I think it should be important to you to notice who has started these interactions rather than habitually reprimand the recipient of them. If nothing else, it is almost certainly not a good idea to encourage posters who have already endured various kinds of abuse in their early lives to endure further verbal abuse here, and to punish them with PCB;s or blocks if they object. All posters should object to any abuse whatsoever- it's a sign of health and strength on their parts that they do so. If you and your deputies line up solely on the side of punishment and repression, you are not helping anyone, and may well be harming them in their healthy attempts to be appropriately assertive. At the moment, you are acting like the worst of the families we are all in the process of leaving behind.
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