Posted by Dr. Bob on March 30, 2008, at 15:49:50
In reply to as things stand now....., posted by twinleaf on March 30, 2008, at 12:15:17
> I wondered if the deps are going to rteply to all notifications? Seems alot of work..... I had a thot that they could choose to reply to those they are NOT going to act on, cuz then at least the poster who reported at least feels 'heard'. I think this could be quite important to many.
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> MWe do already try to reply directly when we don't act. When we do act, we figure that lets them know we heard them.
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> I don't like being told something by someone who is not a deputy now but comes across, to me, as if they do have more authority than a "regular" poster does. I get uncomfortable because I, at times, do not know if I should reply or just keep my mouth shut......
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> fayeroeI don't mean to be flip, but maybe you could reply if you found their post helpful and not reply if you didn't?
> I take no responsibility for any labels or beliefs about any roles others may associate with my participation here.
> Perhaps for the time being, folks could explicitly state whether they require the "mantle of authority" with their answer or if any community member with knowledge of the subject could offer up information. Then I would know whether or not to bother replying.
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> ggRoles do complicate relationships. I think the current deputies find that, and the "deputy" posting names are an attempt to clarify when they're in that role and when they're not. It can be hard to draw that line, though, and even when they're in their poster role, their deputy role can affect how they're perceived. And I'm sure that can happen with former deputies, too.
If people aren't explicit about who they'd like to hear from, and it would help you decide whether to reply, maybe you could ask?
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> My suggestion is simple: when you are going to be absent from your leadership role for a period of time you simply post that, or even have one of your deputies post for you if you are unable. In my honest opinion, one simple post would have prevented the eruption of confusion, anger, fear, and a host of other emotions that arose.
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> Justherself54I understand that more consistent communication would help. But I don't think that's the whole answer, either, since in fact it wasn't enough to post one simple post:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20080204/msgs/816450.html
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> there has been a lot of damage done, leaving me unsure if I will return.
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> Justherself54> I have noticed within my self an inability to post something that before this fallout I would have posted. I have in the last few weeks probably written 6-7 posts to different threads that i deleted and never sent and three new threads that I deleted.
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> rsk> I am another of the posters who, sadly, no longer feels free or comfortable sharing intimate or meaningful episodes from my therapy, or my life, on Psychology, as I used to do from time to time. ... I am very sad that this has happened, as the mutual sharing was very helpful, as well as being fun. It seems to me that the Babble that allowed those wonderful exchanges no longer exists.....
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> twinleafI know that when there's been a loss of safety, or trust, it can take time to repair. If it's even possible to repair. I'm glad you're all still here now,
Bob
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