Posted by muffled on January 19, 2008, at 14:26:30
There has been some divisive issues on some boards at times.
There has been hurtful babble mails at times.
I think babblemail 'feels' 'safer' cuz 1. its not on the boards for all to see 2. its not your personal mail addy
3. ?
I think that issues that may come up on the boards, and IMHO should be resolved as much as is possible ON the boards. Not 'behind the scenes' inflamatory stuff going on via bmail.
People get really really hurt by this. VERY much so. When you are dissed via bmail it feels terribly personal. Whereas if its on the boards, you feel less so. Or mebbe its just people bmail what they would not normally post...
For me to report a bmail is a bad thing...the old 'rat' syndrome...If its on the boards...then it IS generally seen and you don't goto 'rat', or can *carefully* express your hurt...
I am also aware that some seemed to feel that babble was bad or something and felt the need to start their own separate secret 'group', and of course make sure others knew about it...
I HATED cligues in high school. People are just people. Anyhow, its a free world...
But BECAUSE bmail is so readily available. I think it worsens the whole phenomenon that I am trying so carefully to explain w/o being blocked :-(
So I think bmail contributes to me feeling unsafe on babble.
I don't bmail often myself.
What I wish to suggest, is that we (UGH!) regulate (sigh...more rules...) bmail. I had a thot that allowing only say...2 bmails/day?...would reduce the rapid way negative stuff can fly around in the background.
Anyhow, I am just putting this out there, maybe its only me :-( I know people can give out emails, but theres often some slightly more reluctance to do that.
I just feel not safe on the board I hang on, when I know there's so much talking going on 'behind my back' as it were :-( Then there are posts that make one realize there has got to be other stuff going on.I dunno whats happening , but I have seen several posts there of people expressing their feelings of no longer feeling safe.
I am just writing this cuz babblers been good to me. I just would like to make it feel as safe here as possible. I am NOT feeling safe :-(
Please don't block me for this.
M
poster:muffled
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