Posted by Happyflower on June 27, 2007, at 11:37:02
In reply to Re: Dr. Bob we were told not to long ago by deputies. » Happyflower, posted by muffled on June 27, 2007, at 9:13:03
Thanks Muffy,
I guess what I meant behind the just words things is when I am feeling attacked, I will defend myself, but all and all what is said to me, really doesn't matter to me myself as a person, pbecause I know better about myself and I know when someone doesn't have my best interest at heart.
Remember I have lived being berated down, but I knew what was being said to me wasn't true, I knew in my heart. For me this is the same. That self esteem saved my life. What if I belived everything people have said to me who were trying to hurt me? Yeah, I would probably have not want to be alive. But that isn't me, I know I am a good person, no matter what others may say. I think everyone who really knows me would agree I have a huge heart and am a good person.
So it really doesn't offend me because anyone who really knows me , wouldn't try to hurt me over and over again. But I can only feel hurt if I allow it to happen,or if that person means something to me personally. Well that is where I meant words are only words. And I truely only feel hurt if it was somone important to me who means something to me. I have felt hurt sometimes, but that is when I mistakenly believed they were my friends, but I am learning who my real friends are, and will make mistakes along the way. I do care about some people on babble, some I consider friends, and they can probably have the potential to hurt me. But as far as those who are not my friends, it really doesn't have an effect on me. But I do expect rules of civility should be followed even towards me, so I will speak up, and I have learned to do it the "babble way". But that is just my experience.
Being a T, you have to have a thick skin, because you will get projections of all kinds toward you, and you have to stay strong and uneffected in order to help them. Can't take it personal or get offended.
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