Posted by Fivefires on April 19, 2007, at 0:55:50
In reply to Re: TO DR BOB » Fivefires, posted by 10derHeart on April 18, 2007, at 17:27:02
Hi 10derHeart. Tks for posting.
> Fivefires,
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> It was my understanding and interpretation - and Racer's as well - that kninelover was referring to *my* post to *you.* This is why Racer issued a PBC in this thread.
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> If this was not the case, I - in both roles as a deputy and a poster - would be interested in knowing where the misunderstanding happened. If there is a possibility the PBC was issue based on a misunderstanding, that's very important to find out. >
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Well I was confused as well; didn't know who received the PBC.> And FF, I was surprised to see I'd perhaps caused a problem by using the acronym "IRL." I used it purely, and *only* to separate what Dr. Bob (or anyone) does offline, from what they do/say online. That's it - no more. Now you've got me thinking about it (and thank you, BTW) it is kind of an unnecessary term - this "IRL." Just a habit, I guess. It's all very REAL to me! I absolutely do consider this real life. Most of my best friends are here - whether they know it or not :-)>
>Well I'm sorry if u felt jumped on for saying the acronym we all say. I heard it and it really fit w/ how I was feeling.
My best friend IRL is here. I don't want to feel like a babbling idiot for saying this.
I don't want any1 to be ashamed to say they spend their real life here as much as possible, if that is their choice.
I have a person in my life who puts me down for being online or staying in the house too much. I don't wish to feel ashamed for the way I live.
If any1 is interested about what I do here online or in my home, they can knock on my door or the back of my head, ask me, and I might or might not tell them.
I don't have a lot going on IRL right now.
See; I just put myself & the site down .. you think .. you see?
OR, what we can do, is look at it from a diff' point of view, and say we have a lot going on in real life right now.
For me, from this point forward, sitting here spending time on the site will be nothing to ashamed of. Let the peeps who wonder be intrigued.
The acronym in a statement about Dr. Bob made me wonder about him. Where was he? I wish he would tell us he feels we are every bit as important as his patients in his life.
There are "normal" (Just so you know; bein' sarcastic.) peeps who make fun of this site.
I feel I have to quickly change screens and hide what I'd doing here. Well, that's ok if it's for my privacy, but I need to stop doing it because I am ashamed.
Soooo, I want this site to be the best it can be so I will feel very good about sitting here.
Maybe I need a really good therapist to talk with this. Maybe I'm confused? Am I just barking up a tree w/ nothing in it? Can being a part of this online community be something of which to be proud of having in my life?
My P wants me to stay offline. What message is that sending me?
My therapist wouldn't be too happy to learn that I spend a lot of time here. What message is that sending me?
The prior is a great topic for discussion. It's soooo important to me, I'd like to hear from Doctor Bob about it as well.
IS THIS GOOD FOR MY MENTAL HEALTH DR. BOB?
> I felt bewildered by the things you wrote about importance. All I know is you mentioned feeling hurt, after I posted to you, and so I am truly sorry.>
>I was glad to see you respond, as a deputy, and as a peep in a discussion. U didn't say anything to prompt me to do anything. I assume responsibility for my big mouth.
I just took a quick look down social and then glanced @ a few boards and saw some things which bothered me. I think the most important thing was 'lack of support' in some areas.
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I did not mean to hurt you or trigger hurt by saying 'IRL.' I have felt bad ever since and didn't know what to say to you.
>Hey, I abbreviate all over the place and that's really all you were doing. It's the eponym we all use.
I just want us to be proud of ourselves whether we're out volunteering all over town -or- having a discussion w/ a peer here on this site.
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> Believe me, I would never presume to decide what Dr. Bob's priorities are, or what things he does in his life are more important than other things. I haven't any idea, really. I don't know him that well or in that way. That might be a good question to ask him when he is here.
>I have no idea how Dr. Bob feels about us. I may have already done so above, but, ...
WHERE 'ARE WE' AND 'THIS SITE' WHEN IT COMES TO YOUR PRIORITIES DR. BOB?
(Hope u don't mind me throwing this in our conversation 10H or any1 else.)
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> I also think your ideas about Babble are completely valid, and that others probably wonder similar things, too. They are not off the wall, IMO. I hope Dr. Bob reads this thread and it opens a discussion with posters about what you brought up regarding different ways to administer the Babble community. You are a member and it is important to you, so therefore, it is important, period.>
>I just wish to feel proud to be a part of this site. I've got enough people around me who tend to push my 'I'm ashamed' button. I can't allow being here to cause me shame.
Sorry late to respond, but I've been physically ill and in bed.
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