Posted by Fallen4MyT on January 18, 2007, at 1:36:24
In reply to Re: Dr. Bob, something better needs to be done, posted by wishingstar on January 17, 2007, at 18:00:26
VERY WELL SAID.,..Thank you
> I havent contributed to this discussion up until now, but I just feel the need to put in my two cents. I agree with happyflower completely. I'm sorry if this is a little unorganized.
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> If I said to someone, "xxx, you made me feel terrible and youre not helping me - in fact, you make everything worse! this is all your fault" I'd be blocked, no questions asked, right? If I was lucky maybe a PBC, but it wouldnt be let go I'm sure. To me, a statement like the ones being discussed ("if you dont xxx, ill hurt myself") is exactly this, but worse. That statement strongly implies that the person being posted to is unhelpful and to blame for someone elses pain. To me, it is the same exact statement, just phrased differently. There have been other cases here I'm sure (although I couldnt cite any in particular) where things which are uncivil are clearly implied and the poster is blocked or PBCed.
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> I guess some may argue that the implication I hear in the "if you dont, i will..." statement is incorrect. Others may interpret it differently if it were directed at them, but if it were directed at me, I KNOW I'd feel bad, uncomfortable, helpless, and put down, and hurt. This reminds me of an issue I've seen on the politics board before... for instance, if someone makes a statement either for or against a political figure, and receives a block for it... even if it was rather mild and unlikely that anyone was personally offended, the site seems to operate on the idea that IF someone could be offended, it's not civil. I understand this. And so what I'm trying to express here, as others have, is that I WOULD be offended to receive a "if you dont, i will..." post directed at me. No maybe about it. Why protect us from something that just may offend someone, but continue to allow things that many people have expressed IS offensive to them?
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> Dr Bob, I'd be interested in hearing your rationale or thinking regarding allowing these posts. I dont want to argue this point, but I would really like to understand it. Perhaps it would help me (and maybe others) to better understand where you're coming from.
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