Posted by JeffSmith on January 6, 2007, at 12:52:34
In reply to Re: The No Offensive Language Rule, posted by Dr. Bob on January 6, 2007, at 4:57:08
> > lets assume that does horribly offend you. So what does that mean? What exactly happens to you after reading a word that horribly offends you? How are you harmed? Are you left so affected that you'd be unable to continue reading my post? Does being horribly offended mean that you cant go on to read any other post here? Does it make you never want to visit here again?
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> Maybe it would leave her feeling it's not so supportive here?-Supportive of exactley what? Of her potential desire to not view certain censored words which are not directed to or about or dont have anything to do with her? If so then maybe it would or would not leave her feeling its not so supportive here. I dont know how she'd feel but it would certainly be her choice as to how to react to her feeling.
Maybe she would feel that just because certain people choose to use certain words doesnt mean that they dont support her here... they just simply choose to use certain words?
> > Lets pretend Im extremely upset with my mother and I want to come here ... and I just need to vent
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> It can be therapeutic to express yourself, but this isn't necessarily the place.-I know. I was just giving one example to Nikki of how that word might have shown up on the board, not saying I would actually say something like that.
> > And why should any of that be left up to me to have to "worry" about?
> > Are you suggesting that I should stop myself, and all my thoughts, just to first think "Well so and so may be left to feel 'horribly offended' ... if I call my mother a b*tch, so I better first try to come up with a non-offensive term or discription to express how Im feeling about her instead of using that word"??
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> It isn't left up to you, the asterisking is automatic. And you wouldn't have to stop yourself first, you'd just have to stop yourself sometime before clicking "confirm". :-)-You quoted (or included in the above portion of my post) me saying "And why should any of that be left up to me to have to "worry" about?" and then you replied by first saying "It isnt left up to you, the asterisking is automatic".
My question to Nikki (which contained the words 'left up to me') was in reference to how she would potentially be affected by reading a word and as to how that should be left up to me (or everyone else) to "worry" about.
I wasnt suggesting that it was "left up to me" to choose the rules or actual act of inserting an asterisk into a word, if thats what you were thinking I had implied?
-(but I dont think my automatic asterisking funtion is on because I dont get them automatically.)> > The "C" word offends you when written (and I assume also when its spoken). How do you feel about the "C" word if its written here in censored form, as in [xxx]?
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> May I ask why you spelled out the censored form that time, instead of just saying "in censored form", as you did every other time?-You may. : )
-I was prepairing to ask Nikki a series of questions about how she feels about the censored version of the "C" word... I chose to spell out the censored version at that time in order for her to actually see the actual word so she could then have a true reaction to it and would therefore reply to my questions with her accurate feelings/opinions/replies and not have to instead just imagine or guess how she thinks she may have felt if she had seen the word.> > > but, where do you draw the line? Thats the problem.
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> > I agree. : ) And where do you draw the line?
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> FYI, I've drawn the line at "often or usually disparaging, obscene, offensive, or vulgar":
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> http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civilI see.
> > No, it wouldnt really be at all difficult for me to just simply censor my words or not use them at all if it pleases other people... Im 100% for being kind and civil and compassionate towards each other...
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> Great, it would please me, so I guess that's settled. :-)
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> BobHey, not so fast. : )
You left out the ending of that where I said "but IMO censoring or ommitting certain words in order to prevent the possibility of certain people from becoming offended (by just reading them on a message board) is wrong to expect."
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