Posted by LlurpsieBlossom on December 8, 2006, at 10:35:03
In reply to Re: fitting the box with help, posted by Dr. Bob on December 8, 2006, at 1:38:33
> > give them a CHANCE to adapt THEMSELVES into the box.Perhaps with the help of other babblers.
> > Part of the reason babblers hesitate to help other babblers is cuz they afraid they'll somehow say something wrong and get blocked for their efforts.
>
> First, what specifically could other Babblers do to help them adapt?
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> You're right, there isn't incentive for them to try to help if they're just going to get blocked themselves. So those trying to help might need help, too?
>
> BobIf another babbler is talking about a topic that is starting to drift off towards uncivil-land, another babbler might do several things
1) try to distract the to-be-blocked babbler by switching topics
2) try to explain a different point of view to the to-be-blocked babbler (civilly)
3) try to support the to-be-blocked babbler and figure out why they are angry/lashing out. Perhaps it's because they need attention and support, and once they can get that attention and support, they will not feel like lashing out.
4) try to help the to-be-blocked babbler understand that they are in danger of getting blocked. I feel like many blocks may be perceived as a complete surprise. Unexpected. Us "mentally ill folks" may not always have the clearest sense of when we are committing incivilities.5) exchange babblemails with the purposes (1-4) above. once blocked, a babblemail dialog is no longer possible. In the past when I have misunderstood something or someone, I often prefer to try to figure out what's going on in private, rather than cause a tangent of the main thread that revolves around a dispute. Public disagreements have a way of escalating sometimes, even when the original misunderstanding/incivility was very minor. Indeed, once a thread becomes a place to air grievances and throw out opposing viewpoints, the original meaning of the thread is lost. (see the Admin board). A stich in time saves nine. or whatever.
-ll
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