Posted by Dr. Bob on November 7, 2006, at 0:10:29
In reply to I struggle with feeling like I a leper...**Trigg?, posted by muffled on November 6, 2006, at 14:52:27
> Bob, can you please reflect back to me what I said, so that I might know that you DO understand what I am getting at?
I think you're saying it can hurt to be blocked. And it can hurt more if you've come to trust, or even to depend, on this community. And it also hurts more if you're not expecting it.
> I am trying to understand where YOU are comming from as you are the one in control, so its of some importance..
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> muffledThanks for trying to understand. Where I'm coming from is, I'd like the general atmosphere to be supportive. That helps make it feel safe in the first place. But IMO, keeping the general atmosphere supportive requires blocks. Which, paradoxically, can make it feel less safe. But hurt from blocks is at least more predictable? As ClearSkies said, they don't come out of the blue.
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> I think it would supportive for the community as a whole to have the previous requests to be civil linked in the blocking post.
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> ClearSkiesI see what you mean, but I'd be concerned about embarrassing them. If they want, they can ask...
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> Is it true that technically, once a person has received one PBC *ever,* they may be blocked immediately with no warning from then on. And that this does in fact happen.
It's true, that sometimes happens. People should take that first warning seriously.
> its extreemly possible, perhaps in many cases probable, that the poster DOES NOT REALIZE that he/she is crossing the civility lines.
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> thats the problem...sigh...we DON'T recognize when we getting close to or are crossing the line
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> muffledI agree, that's possible. But it's an issue if someone doesn't see what they're doing. Sometimes posters help each other keep track of where the line is (or at least might be). I think that's a good approach.
> I struggle with feeling like I a leper...
> that I ooze badness. That merely by my presence I can infect others...
> Can you imagine the shame of being blocked?
> The confirmation of what I beleive about myself?
> Fortunately I been working on that in T....Being blocked doesn't confirm you're a bad person. Though you may react by feeling that way. I'm glad you're working on that. :-)
Bob
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