Posted by Jost on August 3, 2006, at 23:13:01
In reply to Re: not liking deputies » Jost, posted by Dinah on August 3, 2006, at 21:21:33
> > That would be because the deputies have power, and are secure in their roles, acceptance, respect, and personas on the board.
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> What makes you think that?Probably because if I were in that position, I expect that I would feel that, and also because when I've participated regularly for a fairly long time on a message board, I tend to feel more of those things.
Not at every moment, or with everyone, but enough that when I feel hurt or threatened, or angry, or even put uncomfortably on the spot, I come back to the security that I've established a well-enough respected and solid enough sense of who I am that others won't think badly of me, even if one person does.
So I can recover that sense of being okay--
I think I'd feel an especial responsibility to have that equipoise if I had any power or were somehow in a special position, which the deputies are.
If someone were to go beyond a certain point, I'd actually feel worse for them than for myself, because that tends to happen when someone feels hurt or put down, or afraid or-- . Or imagines themself as such. If it were my responsibility (which luckily it isn't), I guess I would take action for the good of everyone. Reluctantly, however.
I don't know that there wouldn't be times when I would lose my resilience. But I wouldn't like to.
My thought was also that Bob must have a lot of confidence in you, and gg and Auntie Mel--your judgment, ability to handle difficult situations, and not to use your authority inappropriately.
There aren't many people who can do that, especially over time,as you have.
That's mainly why I thought that--not that you wouldn't have moments when you didn't.
Jost
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