Posted by Toph on June 22, 2006, at 14:28:31
In reply to Expressing yourself truthfully, posted by gardenergirl on June 22, 2006, at 0:56:18
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> I have to admit, I just don't understand what's so confusing or objectionable about that. I've thought about it, and about all I can come up with is that maybe at times what someone really and truly desires to express, and they cannot in some way inhibit this desire, is to be insensitive, judgmental, cruel, superior, or in some other way uncivil. Maybe at times that is the real content/meaning of the message--the need to be negative. It's perfectly normal to have those thoughts, urges, and feelings. But to participate at Babble, we must inhibit them. Those are the operating conditions here... >> I don't get it. Should this really be a place where one can "truly express" whatever they wish?
>What I don't get is why it appears the administration is unwilling to consider a scenario in which a negative comment is supportive. In my work confronting an addictive, abusive or dangerous person with their dysfunction is a necessary part of a supportive intervention. The other day a coworker commented to me that I don't always listen to my clients as patiently as I should. I gratefully took this negative assessment as constructive and supportive as I know she wants me to do the best work I can.
Maybe its safer to only allow positive comments. But I wouldn't say that its best.
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