Posted by muffled on March 23, 2006, at 22:10:38
In reply to Re: blocking question****Trigger-emotion)****, posted by JahL on March 23, 2006, at 21:50:42
> > YA BOB.....BLOCKS F*CKING HURT AND I DON"T THINK YOU UNDERSTAND HOW FREAKING MUCH.
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> Me and Bob are cool BUT....***good! :-)
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> ....I agree that he appears not to fully appreciate the distress his often unnecessarily long blocks cause. I'm sure Bob is aware that he sometimes comes across as being rather 'detached', but then I guess the running of a board like demands he be that way (sorry Bob, is it rude to talk about you like this?).***sounds good to me
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> I've never been blocked (to my genuine surprise) and it wouldn't bother me if I was - BUT for some people this place is substitute therapy - rightly or wrongly - and to have that taken away so suddenly, and often for so little...I imagine it can be a big deal.***this however I don't agree with. I do goto therapy. I use this as a place where I am accepted as I am, warts and all as they say.
I also derive alot of comfort that I am not alone in the way I feel about things, and that makes me feel much less stupid and weird.
I can practice 'talking' to people bout stuff in a safe
way. (unless I get blocked of course)
People here can help me feel better when I start to loop out.
I have learned lots.
It is not a replacement for therapy for me. But yes, perhaps it complements it.
Its a big deal to many cuz it triggers old feelings in us. Bad feelings. Right or wrong thats the way it is. This IS a mental health site after all........
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> Imagine being 'uncivil' to your therapist and she tells you to b*gger off for 6 weeks...****thats EXACTLY it. This is a place of communication. Important communication for some of us. Blocking is huge for those of us that use this place more (as spec.k said.)
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> Two themes emerge from all of the 'block'-related posts I've read; SENSE OF PROPORTION and APPLICATION OF COMMON SENSE. So blocks aren't the problem, just how they are applied.***feelings are subjective. So sense of proportion is different to all.
However rules are more objective, and I think they are harsh here.(However, that being said, I think Bob HAS eased up some)
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> FWIW I don't think blocks of more than 2 weeks serve any purpose. I'm not going to name drop, but when certain posters are sent into oblivion for seemingly minor infractions, the board as a whole loses out. This is a more important consideration IMO than the principle of punishment (which is all blocks are).***COMPLETELY agree with you there.
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> If someone is clearly just out to disrupt the board then they should be banned, period, as is the way on most other sites.***that might be a hard one to deal with at times on this site. Cuz sometimes a person may not be setting out to disrupt the board, they may just be having a crisis...and they should be allowed back I think in such a instance.
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> I'm not having a pop at Bob - I've got plenty of respect for the fella - I just thought I'd offer the opinion of someone who's been around long enough to remember when the good doctor actually answered medical questions himself!
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**Wow, you been around awhile!!!! Thanks for giving your input, its appreciated.
See ya,
Muffled
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