Posted by Deneb on January 20, 2006, at 19:53:30
In reply to Re: people are harmed here emotionally » Deneb, posted by alexandra_k on January 20, 2006, at 18:17:17
> and it is not in the interests of the group for him to be diverted by individuals.
Does caring about people really divert attention away from others? Does a mother give less love to each of her 5 children than 1? What if all that was needed was to care and not act? He doesn't have to show that he cares. He doesn't have to spend any time with individuals. Will a teacher be less able to care for a loved one if she/he decides to care about the children in her/his classroom?
I'm not talking about relationships here. I'm just talking about caring that a fellow human being is suffering. Go ahead and punish the person, but does a person have to be so indifferent to her/his suffering? Again, no actions required...just heart.
>and if the group disintegrates... then even those individuals who he may have temporarily helped... ultimately they will be harmed as the group falls apart.
Really? The group will fall apart if he thinks, "Gee, I hope (blocked poster) is OK. I don't want anything bad to happen to her/him."
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