Posted by alexandra_k on July 23, 2005, at 16:41:39
In reply to Re: emailing a deputy » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on July 23, 2005, at 15:57:24
> I think I let stuff roll off my back easier if I feel assured that you will deal with it appropriately. Protect us as it were.
> But it's like with posts that I find uncivil that you let stand. I get mad because I have every expectation that you will protect us, or me, and I am more angry that you don't than I am about what it is I expect you to protect us, or me, from.
> Because you're important enough to me to have the power to make me angry. And I don't give that power easily. (Aren't you appropriately touched?) Or take it back easily.
> Anything in the book about that?There was stuff about idealisation and about how people tend to feel angry and let down when the object of idealisation doesn't live up to the ideal...
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