Posted by Sabina on June 15, 2005, at 8:46:41
In reply to Re: step in the right direction, posted by Dr. Bob on June 14, 2005, at 1:22:01
>> I do think a spreadsheet would be nice. Even if we didn't all agree on it 100%. Would someone like to propose one?
I'd love to propose that you PBC everyone *before* blocking them and that even the simplest of spreadsheets would suffice to keep track of posters and their infractions over time. Once you've made the decision to PBC or block and gone to the trouble of posting it, why not take it a step further and note the information in Excel? I think you might be surprised at the number of people that receive repeated warnings but nary a block while others do not seem to benefit from such leniency. It might actually be an eye opener for you over time. I'm *hoping* it will be the type of eye opening that might lead to more "Please rephrases" and opportunities for apologies on the board. Allow those of us who care to discourse in an adult manner the time to come to a conclusion or agree to disagree instead of sitting in the corner for...a year.
> I'm biased, of course, but good work! Could you comment on what enabled you to take that step?
Thanks! I've worked reallllly hard on myself over the past year to cultivate a positive outlook on life regardless of how bad things got. Regardless of how goofy it sounds, I thought, By God, I *will* be happy! I had to do something because I didn't want to end up a suicide. I still do all the normal stuff: eat well, exercise, take my meds, and keep busy with my work and hobbies...even when I don't feel like it.
But *exactly* why am I not angry at you anymore when I read the Admin board? I think it's because I am happier and not in as much physical and emotional pain. (I'm finally taking pain meds for my back and FMS now and it's made a world of difference.) I kind of feel like, Yeah, that block sucks, but it's no global tragedy. Everything seems to hurt us more, upset us more, the more we ourselves are hurting; and I think that can be the case online, too. It was for me, anyway. Now that I feel so much better, I'm not bothered so much by what I read, hear, or see. Then again, I'm extremely selective about what I read, hear, or see. I focus on the positive, for my own sake and safety.
I think there's always room for improvement here and you seem open to that, even though progress comes slowly, slowly. I do hope you will begin keeping track of your civility warnings and blocks in future, at least for your own edification. The other thing that I think would calm down the Admin board considerably is the confidential Report this Post button for the entire site. I know there was a thread about it at one point and I think it's a great idea. People whose posts are reported don't have to feel singled out and accused and there aren't Admin escalations and fallout to mop up. I dunno. My opinion.
re: my "global tragedy" comment:To anyone other than Dr. Bob reading this: I'm not at *all* saying that getting angry about Admin stuff isn't justified or belittling these issues, so please don't be offended. They are important to me, too, as I've posted on many occasions over the past few years. I'm only speaking for myself in that I now have my personal emotional priorities more balanced now, where it had been a problem for me in the past.
poster:Sabina
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