Posted by Dinah on May 29, 2005, at 8:25:51
In reply to Re: Actually, reread the FAQ... » 10derHeart, posted by alexandra_k on May 29, 2005, at 5:30:10
Well, I don't recall the specifics.
But if I directed something to you, I'm sure I realized that was a rescinding. If I commented on something you said, either to Dr. Bob or in general terms, I'm relatively certain it was just that, a comment. If you commented to my comment to Dr. Bob or the board in general with a comment to Dr. Bob or the board in general, you would have been within your rights.
Which is why I think the DNP is toothless, but on the other hand, it's also theoretically sound.
But... I doubt that's why I rescinded the DNP. If I'd have seen the pattern, I'd have been more likely to be irritated by the DNP limitations than anything else.
I probably rescinded the DNP because I genuinely like you, Alexandra, and believe you don't mean to hurt or frustrate me. I just needed a cooling off period. When I felt cool, I rescinded it. When the same thing happens with Dr. Bob, I usually throw a tantrum and self block myself from the board, vowing never to return. (I tried a less extreme tactic this time.) With you, I used the DNP. Much less dramatic.
I reiterate. I don't think you (or Dr. Bob) intend to frustrate me. I think that's just your characteristic style, and sometimes I feel too intensely about a topic and find that I get really frustrated and am better off disengaging before the temper tantrum stage.
Just wanted to clarify, because I didn't want you to think that your interpretation of the events on that occasion meant that indirect responses to me should I ever issue a DNP again is the best way to go about rapprochement. Depending on how distressed I still feel, it might not be *at all*. But I think that you can count on my liking for you to allow me to rescind the DNP (should it ever happen again) once I cool down a bit.
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