Posted by so on May 24, 2005, at 22:20:48
In reply to Re: I'm not so clear on the scope... » so, posted by alexandra_k on May 24, 2005, at 21:08:06
> Ah. I typically show disengagement by not responding.
I don't know what your typical behavior has to do with my choices.
> Right... I'm a little unclear on that. Was it every thread aside from the current one (where you were hoping that I would 'back' your 'cause'?)
Maybe it would be more clear to you if you reread the post in which I answered the question yesterday - which you properly addressed to "no one in particular" in the context of the status of my request at that time.
> Right. You really can feel free not to respond to me, you know.
You have access to scant information about what I can feel; none beyond the very little I have provided here in posts. I have written that I feel very little at all.
> In fact... I like to think that people will do this if I annoy them.What you like to think about what people will do might not be informative about what they will do.
> He wasn't accusing you of being dumb...
> He was saying that the tone of your post to me seemed to imply that you thought that I was dumb.Now I see, having more carefully investigated the usage, unfamiliar to me, of "ie", which I am more accustomed to reading with punctuation, (i.e.) to present, "id est", or "that is" that the writer implied I thought you must be dumb.
Again, however, that was not my statement - my statement addressed my sense of value for my time spent explaining my view vis a vis your preference for understanding your view. Several alternatives preclude that ignorance on your part would be the reason it is not worth my while explaining my views to you, including that you might not be interested in understanding my views, and that I might not have time to compose an adequate explanation of my views to inform your understanding of a topic so unique to your experience. I might consider it not worth my time to explain Russian or Chinese language, either, but that wouldn't I think mean you are dumb. It could mean I don't consider myself a qualified instructor.You confirmed your understanding in a later post that our efforts to understand each other might not be a worthwhile use of our time.
I doubt I would be allowed to write that another person here was implying a third person was dumb because they were not quick to understand views they do not embrace. If I were to broach the topic of what I thought someone thought of someone else, I believe I would be required to write it as an "I statement" about my feelings, and in my experience, not using the self-referential prepositional phrase "to me" to indicate my perception, and certainly not as a finding of fact phrased "I find".
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