Posted by sunny10 on February 23, 2005, at 15:26:03
someone is being "uncivil" to them?
I know someone who did that. The police laughed at them and left. And that friend became so bitter and angry that she stopped being able to be a friend to anyone. She was not a victim, in this case, she just perceived herself to be. She chose to allow herself to be a victim and scared off everyone else.
If we choose not to learn how to deal with all types of communications from all types of people, are we truly ever growing as people? Even if "dealing with" needs to be "ignoring", isn't that still better than giving someone power over us by allowing ourselves to be hurt by what someone else says AND RESPONDING- continuing the hurt? That sounds more like self-sabotaging to me than standing up for myself.
I choose to grow. I choose to debate. I am working on not using the word "hate" (I hate this, I hate that, not just, I hate so-and-so- the uses are just a bad habit I am trying to break). I try to refrain from using words like "always" or "never", because absolutes don't really exist in my life- I may change my mind about that particular thing tomorrow if I learn something new to add to my thoughts on the topic!
I choose to continue a conversation or let it end-I don't choose to continue one on purpose that hurts me everytime I have to think about it. And that's all I choose to say about what I've been reading on Admin lately- because it hurts me to watch people hurt themselves over and over.
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