Posted by gardenergirl on January 21, 2005, at 18:42:18
In reply to Re: Lous' response to -list of criteria-24/7, posted by malthus on January 21, 2005, at 17:55:37
Ugh, you are right malthus. What happened here seems to be exactly what you described as feeling hurtful to you. I'm sorry your suggestions were overlooked by me, and perhaps others. I admit to suffering from mental laziness right now. I only seem to be posting brief, and usually silly posts, because actually composing something supportive and thoughtful feels like too much. (I'm way behind on work and all I can do in leisure time is veg out.)
My own reaction when I read your post was that your suggestions have some merit. I prefer direct communication myself. I admit to being less enthusiastic about the idea of a published list of criteria for what is considered to be supportive. I think each situation, each poster, and each person who replies contributes something to the end result (a post which may or may not be supportive), and this would make for an almost infinite number of possible supportive responses. And I think what is not supportive is not always clear, either. Some of us are looking for someone to validate our feelings, some of us would like solutions or suggestions for action, and some of us want both or don't know what we are looking for...we just need something.
I think assessing this is more of an art than a science.
warmly,
gg
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