Posted by Kali Munro on August 6, 2004, at 14:48:39
In reply to Re: Chuckle, posted by Dinah on August 6, 2004, at 13:23:46
>>>>We're allowed to say "I feel hurt when I read your post." We are not allowed to say "I feel your post was hurtful" or "I feel the contents of that post were hurtful". I'm not sure about "I feel hurt *by* your post." It's verbal gymnastics that requires that we take total responsibility for our feelings in our remarks, and does not allow for the reference to the post or poster to be in any way negative.>>>>>
I see. Thanks for that clarification. :)
I imagine the concern with commenting on someone's post is that it how one experiences a post is open to interpretation. What one member might find hurtful, another might not. The thinking is that you may have *felt* hurt reading the post but the post isn't necessarily hurtful. I agree with that to a point -- given we all perceive things from our own perspectives bringing our histories and experiences to everything we read -- although at some point the content crosses a line and is viewed as hurtful or uncivil but, from what I'm hearing, members are asked not to comment on that and leave it to Bob to make that call. So, then to answer the question, in this context, the answer would be to notify Bob?
Kali
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