Posted by shar on April 17, 2004, at 21:28:17
In reply to Re: please be civil, objective of ..., posted by spoc on April 15, 2004, at 2:00:50
> > Funny you metioned that. I was thinking the other day that we can say just awful things here about ourselves. We see people all the time call themselves horrible things; ugly, vile, evil nasty things. Wouldn't it be nice if we all had a tiny little Dr. B installed in our brains so we would automatically issue our *own* PBC's to ourselves? :-)> > Emmy - being civil to herself!
.........E--I am thrilled to hear you are being civil to yourself!! Is that like self-acceptance? You should tell me! I could use the info!
> And isn't this the essence of PB as research;
..........PB as research. That would seem to indicate a bias on D. Bob's part that dissing oneself is OK, but disagreeing with others is not. Maybe it is true, I don't know; but it doesn't feel that way to me for *research purposes*. [If it IS the case, I'd like to know!] However, old as I am, I could well be wrong...
>that similar to civil thoughts about ourselves in our minds, positive things will occur and stay in place for a message board if it enforces civility?
...........well, now, I don't know so much about that because I don't have many civil thoughts about myself. And, I am well beyond the idea that positive things will occur if I think positive/civil/loving/kind thoughts toward myself or others. Or, have I misunderstood?
>That a better quality of give, take, accuracy, self-policing and auto-correction of information will be facilitated; but will not have to be actively moderated; if conservative politeness conventions prevent anything from ever spinning out of control?
.........well, I suppose if D. Bob got lazy, and didn't want to be much involved here, then, yeah, a better quality of give-and-take etc. would be a relief. However [as you will soon be sick of hearing] that hasn't seemed the case to me.
> Some people say it's "not healthy," and what I'm writing isn't from the perspective of however I feel about this whatsoever. It's just philosophizing. So from that angle, maybe the hypothesis is that the "healthy" part is a continued accuracy of information; reliable gentleness of support; and "safety" of opening up about problems. Yet all self-perpetuating without much supervision. Some might call that healthy, others might want to call it a Stepford Message Board? ;- )
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...........well, I don't know. I'm a big fan of manners and mannerly behavior; and also a big fan of disagreement insofar as it is being truly 'real' (not name-calling, and all that, but just disagreeing; tho' I will admit that when someone does something I REALLY disagree with I *do* want to disagree with it). And you could well be right, that I am a Stepford-Message-Board-member, but I don't write too much that I don't really believe.
.........I guess we (like water) all find our own level here.Shar
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