Posted by mattdds on January 6, 2004, at 18:54:31
In reply to Re: please don't pressure others, posted by Dr. Bob on January 4, 2004, at 22:42:51
It does more harm than good if we have to walk on pins and needles in order to communicate here.
I would argue that people can interpret things in many different ways, and some people can get offended with any comment, no matter how well phrased. To call what Larry said uncivil would take an enormous stretch in interpretation.
To a certain extent, it is not events in life that disturb people, but the interpretation of those events.
Why can't put a bit more of the burden of the experience of being offended on the recipient. Now, obviously there are boundaries (e.g. gross cutdowns or obscenities), but you are grossly overestimating the fragility of people, and underestimating their ability to "get over it".
I think I may not be alone in thinking that a lot more harm is being done with *some* of these bans than good. I'm feeling pretty fed up and annoyed.
People are not as fragile as you think, and if they are, perhaps they are the ones with the problem. I'm speaking in general terms here.
Matt
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