Posted by Dinah on December 16, 2003, at 9:50:30
In reply to not touching that... » kara lynne, posted by justyourlaugh on December 16, 2003, at 8:30:16
Obviously I was hurt by Dr. Bob calling a post that referred to my delusions, grumbling, and disorganized mind supportive. But on the other hand, I don't see it as a patriarchal thing. Just an insensitive thing.
I have enough esteem for myself to think that I am even more than "enough". I have enough esteem for myself that I have no wish to be addressed like that. I had hoped that Dr. Bob would have enough esteem for me, and for all of us, not to want that either. I am disappointed to discover that is untrue.
I actually no longer think the original poster meant anything personal by it. He seems to tell the same sort of things to everyone.
But that doesn't make it acceptable under the current civility guidelines in my eyes.
And so I refuse to be shackled by the imperatives of others telling me what I should do in order to be cured in an instant. I refused to accept the blaming (grumbling, delusional, disorganized) words of others. I refuse to accept overgeneralizations and people who don't know me jumping to conclusions about me.
The past is past. Dr. Bob never gives retroactive PBC's. But I hope that in the future, Dr. Bob joins me in not accepting the above, many of which are, after all, embodied in the civility guidelines.
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