Posted by Dr. Bob on November 4, 2003, at 17:59:58
In reply to Re: Civility, posted by Susan J on November 3, 2003, at 9:59:18
> posters need to be able to be as clear as possible in what they are trying to say and to whom they are directing it... If this causes someone to feel put down a little, perhaps they need to be able to learn so they can change their behaviour in the future? If one cannot tell another poster there are hurting you or they may have a differing view to you..
Posters need to be clear, but civil, too. Who's to say who "needs" to feel put down? I think people can learn without being put down. It's OK to say you feel hurt by what another poster said. And different points of view are fine, and in fact encouraged.
> I no longer feel safe on this board, as I misinterpret posts especially when it matters more, ie. when I am depressed
I'm sorry you no longer feel safe. But if you're not sure how to interpret something, you can always ask...
> I also tend to pick up on dropped remarks and feel hurt... Even if they are aimed at others, this also hurts me, as I feel their discomfort.
That's another way in which civility is important...
> I also think there are many posts that should have been deleted. If posts are merely there to hurt or annoy or provoke a reaction etc., they should be deleted.
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> JanMy philosophy has been to try to prevent them in the first place...
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> Yes, discontent among posters is inevitiable. But I think the culture here, a subjective civility standard, as well meaning as I know it is, inflames normal everyday discontent.
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> SusanSorry, how do you think it inflames discontent?
If someone would like to propose an objective standard, I'd be glad to consider it...
Bob
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