Posted by Larry Hoover on August 9, 2003, at 10:58:47
In reply to and where would Zo's learning take place?--Dr. Bob, posted by zenhussy on August 9, 2003, at 9:23:55
> >>Recent events here have helped me to refine my interpersonal dialogue. That's a good thing. A life skill. I wouldn't (and didn't) get that kind of learning "out there".<<--Larry Hoover
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> Dr. Bob,
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> So Larry gets to work out his interpersonal skills here....We all get to do that, if we decide to do so.
As the philosophy being questioned was mine, I'd like to expand on the subject a little more.
I think that what is important in life is not what happens, but what one does in response to what happens. Events permit decisions. And, as a decision might be to choose one path over another, prior decisions can impact on the very nature of subsequent ones. At a possible fork in the road, choosing one path over another will inevitably lead to later decisions particular to the path chosen. In effect, you can look at individual decisions as being part of a decision tree.
Another issue is locus of control, i.e. what is in my power, and what is not. Bob gave me a PBC. That's a decision point for me. Anything is possible, but I decide what I'm going to do about it. I haven't submitted to Bob's will. I have chosen a path for personal betterment. I would like to think that is one of the outcomes Bob would like to see, but he can't make it happen.
In my comments directed to Pax, I made a strong effort to be civil, but not to avoid controversy, per se. (One of the issues I discussed with Bob via email was controversy.) In retropect, I failed to avoid incivility, perhaps miserably.
I'm sorry, Pax. I had hoped to have a more direct and personal opportunity to express that sentiment, but you haven't reappeared. So, here it is, anyway.
>...is GIVEN the chance not once but twice and fortunately goes with it for the betterment of all.
Thank you for acknowledging my efforts. Bob affords many people discretion, something that I think many people fail to acknowledge. Pax got PBC'ed in this thread, even though he had previously been banned. In the initial flap over the Ace banning, djmm and others used all kinds of forbidden language, without penalty.
>It's nice to see when a poster uses their 'get out of jail free' card wisely. Why not give that card to all posters?
Theirs expired, unused?
> Where is Zo's chance?At PBC, one week, two weeks, four weeks, and eight weeks. Now, sixteen weeks. According to *my* philosophy, those would be the decision points in the decision tree.
> Ace's chance?
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> kid_A's chance?Similar.
> a non syncophant,
> zenhussyQuite separately to the above, the very presence of this word on the page is offensive to me, although the word is sycophant.
Lar
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