Posted by Dinah on August 8, 2003, at 7:44:34
In reply to Re: Bob, please consider a PBC for Larry, posted by Zo on August 8, 2003, at 0:04:32
It seems that everyone agrees.
This board, with its style of moderation, admirably suits many posters.
It does not suit other posters.
That would seem to me to be true about anything out there - internet board or not.
Since Dr. Bob is not likely to change his moderation style, and since that style suits many people just fine. And since this is not the only board in the world.
Why don't we all just accept what this board can and cannot be, and use it to the extent that it is useful to us? With gratitude to Dr. Bob for what is useful to us.
So some of us may feel so safe here that we don't wish to post elsewhere. Others of us may only find this board useful for the exchange of medication information. Others of us might find this board profoundly unuseful.
Does there need to be so much anger about what "is" and will continue to be?
Zo, I'm not saying you personally are angry. I see you've come to your own conclusions about the why of this board and why some people find it more helpful than others.
But even if you're right, why does that mean this board or its posters should or must change. You say that the world in general has rejected the mores of Aspies and embraced those of neurotypicals. Even if everything you say is true, why try to change this particular place? It may be a refuge for those who find that atmosphere comforting? And again, I'm not saying you in particular are at this point trying to change this place.
I suppose that what I really really don't understand is the inexorable pull this place seems to have both on those whose needs it meets and those whose needs it doesn't meet. If Dr. Bob suddenly decided to embrace the mores that you believe are associated with neurotypicals, and it became clear that that would not change, I'd leave this place in a heartbeat and not look back. I'd keep up with the friends I met here off board, and look for a place that better suited my style. And if I couldn't find one, I'd be sad, but I wouldn't keep coming back to a place that was bound to distress me. Or at least I hope I wouldn't. It wouldn't seem like a healthy choice for me at all.
I don't think Dr. Bob slips subliminal messages in the pale yellow background of this site? "Come back, no matter how harmful this place is to you." I really doubt he does that.
I just don't understand.
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