Posted by Emme on July 8, 2003, at 8:29:57
In reply to To Emme and others regarding posting policies, posted by whiterabbit on July 8, 2003, at 5:49:16
> but after some jousting we sort of give each other a high-five in our boxing gloves and retreat to our opposite corners in the ring, nobody really won OR lost. Nothing wrong with that, game over, mutual respect, chalk it up to experience.I was shooting for game over. 'Fraid I don't box well... My last sentence was a request not to be addressed a certain way in the future. Nothing more, nothing less. I was angry at the moment but tried to phrase my request as simply as possible.
> But you must understand that there HAS to be a referee to keep the game going - opposition is more than allowed,
I do understand. I may not always agree 100% with the referee, but I've never debated the existence and purpose for the referee.
> But the debate must stay within acceptable bounds to prevent a free-for-all, and anyone vaguely familiar with any sport knows this to be true.
Agreed. I initially disagreed with Dr. Bob about my use of the word rigid, but when I thouht it, I agreed that for my part, I used a bad turn of phrase. I think the other poster was heated and I was uncomfortable with the level of anger emerging and I'm not sure he was playing within bounds himself. I probably have a lower tolerance for that sort of thing than many people. Everyone debates differently. I prefer it to stay a little cooler. I probably should not have posted on that thread and gotten into a situation I wasn't prepared for.
> Time after time I've seen people announce their departure because they felt picked on and singled out and misunderstood and warned or blocked due to "favoritism". They're overwhelmed by the injustice of a PBC and hyper-focus on an issue that's not really a big deal.
I'm backing off for a while from the main board because I think it's in my best interests. I don't think Dr. Bob singled me out, but my defenses are down and I think it's sensible at the moment. (Actually, judging from Psycho-social it seems lots of people are having a rough time, which is too bad, but that's off the point...)
> I suspect that we do this because if we're really pissed off at another poster, we don't have to think about the people in our lives who truly caused a great deal of injury to our emotional well-being.
Nah...I think about them! :)
> using PB as a sort of journal while I was still sailing all over the map trying desperately to chart a course.
Hmm...probably not a bad use. I use the main board mostly for meds advice and to give it when I'm able to. Psycho social has been incredibly supportive in the path finding way.
> PB is a tool that you can take advantage of during your own journey towards recovery or destruction - nothing more, nothing less. No website - or song or book or whatever you're blaming disaster on - is directly responsible for your actions. I laugh rudely when anyone tries to blame subliminal messages or any other vague unspecific crap as the reason for a hateful, destructive, focused & viscious crime towards another human being.Ah, you speak generally. Yeah, I survived growing up with Road Runner and didn't turn violent. :) LOL. I don't think I did any major crimes in this arena. Misdemeanor maybe.
Yep, gotta get some work done myself. Have a good day. Or at least an acceptable one. :)Emme
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