Re: I have mixed feelings » Dinah

Posted by shar on April 23, 2003, at 20:00:10

In reply to Re: I have mixed feelings, posted by Dinah on April 22, 2003, at 21:08:03

Dinah,
I think you are a kind and caring and sympathetic person (and secretly wish you were kinder, more caring, and more sympathetic to YOURSELF) and we need bunches of people like you, who are willing to move toward people that say they hurt.
The most important thing is doing what feels right to you (except being mean to yourself), and responding to others in a way you can live with.
It'd be a pretty cold world if everybody took my approach. And, variety is what it's all about in most things. We all bring different things to the boards here, and you should certainly not ever apologize or feel bad or foolish for your genuine responses and gifts. Instead, you should feel proud that you do what you think is right. And, if others don't like it, too bad. And, if you get a 'gotcha' every once in a while, join the club; you're in good company here cause we all get got from time to time (even the cynics among us).
And, I don't believe that's a bullseye on your back. The bullseye is on your foot, where you keep shooting yourself by being so harsh and mean to yourself. One of these days I want to read about how you put yourself FIRST.
(For clarification, those are two separate topics I managed to mix in; the one about you being kind to others, and the one about wanting you to be kinder to yourself. They seemed to sort of dovetail as I was writing, but they are actually two different things in case that wasn't very clear.)
Shar
> On the one hand, I don't like being made a fool of. But... I dunno. I think I would feel worse if I didn't welcome someone who needed welcoming.
>
> I guess I've always felt that what other people do is what other people do, and they need to answer for that themselves. But what I do is what I do, and I'm responsible for that no matter what other people do.
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> Do I have a big bullseye painted on my back?

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Thanks Ayuda--great to hear! (nm) kara lynne 4/22/03
Re: TY my instict was right! » NikkiT2 fayeroe 4/22/03
Never let your guard down Dragonslayer 4/22/03
Never, ever let your guard down+++ (nm) fayeroe 4/22/03
Re: Never, ever let your guard down+++Amen. (nm) shar 4/22/03
Re: TY my instict was right! shar 4/22/03
TY my instict was right!++gender change, perhaps (nm) » shar fayeroe 4/22/03
Re: I have mixed feelings Dinah 4/22/03
Re: I have mixed feelings Dinah 4/22/03
Re: Hmm... Clarification Dinah 4/23/03
Re: I have mixed feelings as well » Dinah leeran 4/23/03
Re: I have mixed feelings » Dinah shar 4/23/03
Shar!! Miller 4/24/03
Re: I have mixed feelings » shar Dinah 4/24/03
To: Dinah Dragonslayer 4/24/03
What is 'who is someone in the kitchen with?' » Miller shar 4/25/03
Re: I haven't a chance. :-) (nm) » shar Dinah 4/25/03
Well Said. » Miller gabbix2 4/27/03
Re: I have mixed feelings » Dinah gabbix2 4/27/03
Re: I have mixed feelings » gabbix2 Dinah 4/27/03
I definitely agree Dinah » Dinah gabbix2 4/27/03
ps. Dinah gabbix2 4/27/03

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