Posted by Lou Pilder on February 28, 2003, at 18:53:47
In reply to Another thought » Dinah, posted by beardedlady on February 28, 2003, at 17:26:23
BL,
You wrote,[...it is OK to make a positive comment or complimant someone without having to explain yourself...].
What is a compliment ,or not, was a topic of disagreement on this forum and a discussion ensued so as not to deternmine one way or the other by any one poster here if the posts in question, if they were identified, could be determined to be funny or complimentary. There have been different points of view here about this and there have been objections posted here concerning the way Dr. Bob has made remarks to some people here and how he has commented to those that he was expelling. This is not a one-person issue here.
In my request to Dinah, the request was a request for {identification} of the particular posts of Dr. Bob's that she thought was of funny. I did not ask her to explain herself as to why she thought those posts by Dr. were funny to her, only to identify them so that the posters here could separate them and ,possibly rule out ones that could be construed to be {not} funny, but ,possibly cruel to the poster that he remarked to and get this out in the open, where it belongs,for ony one's post is open to all posters here for examination and discussion, so that those who feel that Dr. Bob's remarks to be demeaning, or cruel or [uncivil] to those that he has made those remarks to , and also to those that feel the same type of pain that the poster could feel even though they were not the ones that Dr. Bob remarked to in a manner like some have expressed here, lsuch as Wendy. This admin. board is a venue for posting suggestions for improvement. And posters here can voice their objections {so that suggestions for improvment could be heard}. Without those that voice their concerns, what way could there be to make suggestions for improvent? And how can we voice our concerns about posts unless they are {identified}? Since Dinah rejected an opportunity to identify the posts that she wrote as being funny, other posters brought out one. At that point, Dinah needed{not} to be a participant and could leave the thread or stay..As for me, if whatever is done to one of the posters here that could cause that type of pain, then I feel that same pain and whether the posts are identified or not, the topic was {initiated} by Dinah , and that could be another subject for discussion.
Lou
poster:Lou Pilder
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