Posted by wendy b. on September 17, 2002, at 18:19:24
In reply to Re: please be civil » wendy b. » Alii, posted by Dr. Bob on September 17, 2002, at 13:37:13
Bob,
I still stand by what I said. So, no, a post can say all sorts of nicey-nice things, and then really HIT a person, and I think Phil did just that: starts out cooing understanding and pity, and then - BAM! Besides the "get over it" comment, which I've already critiqued, calling someone's post (however unpleasant one might believe it to be), "morning DJ shock value," is rather unsupportive, in my book. The sentences at the end contained "language that could offend others" (direct quote from the civility rules), something you've reprimanded people for many, many times.
>It's not my business but it is my business if I have to read posts from someone who thinks they are the only goddamned person on this planet that's been fucked out of a fair shot. Get over it.
Phil could have just stuck to the first part of his post, and said, "I wish you could get over it," even. And that would have been so much better, wouldn't you agree? Kiddo's response about how Phil's intent is clear (he indicates he can stand to be blocked for 2 weeks, he just needed to get that off his chest) is absolutely right. How can you let this go, and then turn around and PBC & block people left and right for using harmless humor and quotations? All the gratuitous "I'm-the-boss-around-here" check-mates are driving many of us to distraction. Your motivation, in cases like this one, is totally beyond my comprehension.
Wendy> > I hope you get blocked for your post to Trouble
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> I don't consider saying that you hope someone gets blocked to be supportive. Or referring to them, even if just in the subject line, as nasty. If you disagree with someone, please either just email me directly or try to find a civil way to express it here.
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> > (In fact, I don't see why Bob jumps all over some people, but allows this post to stay, but we'll leave that to another post. ) ...
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> > To say to Robin: "Get over it," is as unsupportive as you can get.
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> I thought that overall, his post was caring and empathic, so I let that one sentence go. But it certainly was a judgment call. And of course my judgment is idiosyncratic...
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> Bob
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