Posted by Dinah on March 31, 2002, at 13:15:13
In reply to Re: what's going on, posted by shelliR on March 31, 2002, at 12:02:47
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> On the other hand, I feel that Dinah just fueled a little smoke into a full blown fire when she said,
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> "Unfortunately, many people appear to have problems with good intentions and take offense where none is meant while offering plenty of offense in return. I don't understand it, but there it is."Oops. I apparently typed that in wrong. What I meant to say was that many people appear to have problems with RECOGNIZING good intentions...
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> This was a direct putdown of Elizabeth and Zo. It basically said that their opinions were prompted by their need to take offense. How can Dinah possibly know what others intent was?Well, precisely. And how could you possibly know what my intent was? Admittedly my inadvertantly omitted word made my post less clear, but my intent was not to say that their opinions were prompted by their need to take offense. That actually never occurred to me, and never would. I was merely surprised that no one seemed to recognize that Andy had meant no offense and no one had taken that into account when responding to his post. Especially since I didn't recognize Andy's name and wasn't sure how long he had been posting. And ESPECIALLY since by the time I had posted Andy had made several posts that made it clear that he HAD taken offense at the replies made to his post, and I understood his point. It's not as if I made my statement in reply to posts (not just Zo's and Elizabeth's but everyone's) made to Andy. I was also responding to Andy's obvious hurt.
I do however have a problem with trying to be protective and helpful of others whether or not they wish or need me to be. I'll try to do better not to rush to anyone's defense.
poster:Dinah
thread:3619
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