Posted by IsoM on February 19, 2002, at 20:29:32
In reply to Re: For 3 Beer Effect and anyone else « Dinah, posted by Dr. Bob on February 19, 2002, at 18:52:57
Dinah, you don't over-react at all - really. We are all very different people from different backgrounds & it's only to be expected that each person would react somewhat differently. And you're right that all too often people mean comments as very cruel racial slurs.
I tend to overlook a lot of people's comments & try instead to gently educate them. If they're simply uninformed or 'going along with the crowd', a gentle reminder that many of us DO APPRECIATE a variety of cultures & races will often make them think twice before they spout such nonsense.
But if they really are entrenched bigots, nothing will get through to them & I consider them poor association & limit my contact with them while still maintaining courtesy towards them.
I think you're a wonderful person, Dinah, with a deep sense of rightness & concern for others. I wish there were many, many more like you. I'd much rather be around someone who's reserved but kind-hearted & thoughtful like you, than around someone exuberant & friendly but who's narrow-minded & hypocritical. The packaging doesn't always reveal the contents.
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