Posted by Noa on March 22, 2001, at 17:49:20
In reply to Re: Are some of us invisible? » JahL, posted by Chris A. on March 21, 2001, at 23:51:56
> >is this forum appropriate for those of us with SAPD or does it just reinforce the problem?
I think that is an interesting question. In some ways, this kind of forum is especially good for sensitive and socially avoidant people--it might be easier to take risks this way than in person, but otoh, this way of communicating can lead to misperceptions and feeling slighted, too, because there are no nonverbal cues to read the "climate". Also, because it can be disinhibiting for some people, there really are some times when the climate is hostile.
Still, I think it is an individual choice on the basis of what is good for you right now. If you are getting benefit and aren't feeling harmed, and can do what you did by bringing up your concern here--ie, checking out your automatic perceptions with others-- it can be appropriate. But I also think it is important to monitor how you feel here. I took a break last year because it became uncomfortable for me. It is important to know what your needs are.
I think this place (and other internet support boards) can be a good bridge to eventually taking more risks "out there" as long as you check things out as you go (ie, don't rely on your automatic assumptions alone) and also don't see this as a lifelong *substitute* for in person contact.
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