Posted by dove on May 2, 2001, at 12:49:00
In reply to Re: frequent posting, posted by Noa on April 23, 2001, at 8:57:37
I vaguely remember the sequence. It seems that a few of us were *very* connected to the board, there were less people coming and going then, more regulars, and a feeling of 'family' seemed to exist. There were a couple of changes that took place rather quickly, and I clearly remember a wicked attack slapped on Noa, one of the few times I've entered the line of fire.
However, I believe a few of us got caught in a no-win situation by responding to certain poster(s) who were not receptive to advice, care, or concern. That was the *heavy* period when I could hardly bear to visit PB, it was too emotionally taxing. The strings entwining many of us suddenly pulled very tight, strangulating the very life we were trying to share. Too close, too personal and too real.
I hung back and I recall a specific post written by Noa that stated my own feelings perfectly, that due to the strain, PB had become an unhealthy and overwhelming place. I felt even stronger, it felt like a very dangerous place to me. Then, we lost some of our 'family' members to real-life endeavors and the ambience--the flavor--of PB changed. I have not really engaged PB in the same manner since that 'heavy' period. I've been much more cautious and much more finicky about what I read, who I respond to, and how often.
The benefits are personal safety (or at least the perception of), not feeling overwhelmed by everyone's hurts and pains, not worrying myself to distraction during real-life, and feeling guilt-free. The drawbacks are the lack of true support, the lack of family, the lack of camaraderie, and it has become more difficult to locate real answers and gain real knowledge.And no one, absolutely *NO ONE* should feel slighted or accused, it's just the changing of the guard so-to-speak. Change is not always a comfortable venture, especially for those who remember the good 'ol days. The atmosphere has changed, but it may be for the best. And whoever it is that's posting too much, too often, and too authoritarian will assuredly run their course. There is only so much one person can say, write, or do until one reaches burn-out. For the time being I offer my opinion that we wait it out, it may prove worth it.
dove
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