Posted by novelagent on December 13, 2012, at 16:02:27
In reply to Re: miserable at work vs miserable on disability » alchemy, posted by Emme_V2 on December 10, 2012, at 14:36:28
Just ask for some time off and check into an institution. It may be difficult to get admitted into a hospital, since most of the time insurance says no unless there's suicidal ideation or psychosis, so you may have to be creative with your symptoms or have a doc good at doing paperwork that gets things done,
Ask your doc about a hospital stay at a teaching hospital in your area, or see if it's feasible for him to admit you to McLean in Belmont, Massachusetts. You don't need to go to an ER, because he has admitting privileges to certain hospitals, and tht lets you in the side door.
Hospital docs see patients whose doctors gave up on them a long time ago all the time, and they try things that actually get things done.
You should talk to your HR department about having some time off for a clinical evaluation over a couple of weeks, and I would keep a contact number of someone in HR on your phone to call in case your stay is slightly longer than expected. People sre very understanding about hospital stays, more than you think.
I was kicked out of my school, and switched to the night school to make up deficiencies on my transcript, and a hospital release form I gave to my school's housing department director was enough for her to make the incredible exception of letting me stay in dorms I had no right to stay in for 2 full semesters.
Also, hospitalization is incredibly liberating, oddly enough, Suddenly, no matter how stressful your obligations are, you can just hit the pause button, and everyone accomodates you like crazy, more than you'd ever expect, and you can just focus on getting better. No one's ever been fired right after coming back from the hospital. It's a huge life line on so many levels-- access to incredibly insightful doctors, the best medical treatments, and the documentstion necessary to be sble to hit that pause button for your life.
You deserve the relief with sll you've been through, and it's just not worth it to keep feeling the way you feel. Life is short.
I'm not lelling you this, but in case your insurance sucks, it's important you know that doctors require hearing a specific plan of suicide in order to compell hospitalization; I'm not sure if that's also the standard required for insurance to approve hospitalization. But as a voluntary patient, you have certsin privikeges not extended to those eho don't agree to be voluntarily committed.
> > Because its through work it wouldnt be as difficult to approve through hr.
> > It is a bettet option to try and talk to mt supervisor, but i dont think she would be understanding.
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> Why do you think she would not be understanding? Have you discussed this with her before and had a negative experience? You may be right that she won't be understanding, or you may be pleasantly surprised.
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> It's obviously tricky to decide whether and how to discuss such issues with management. I think indicating clearly that you are being responsible with your medical care and discussing what you think you need work-wise (e.g., reduced time, some time off, FMLA, short term disability) to be able to do your job well for them in the long term is good. This should be taken by management as seriously and reasonably as if you were asking to accommodate treatment for any other serious illness.
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> Do you have anyone in your organization (a friend or a mentor) whom you trust and with whom you can speak confidentially about this to help you decide how to proceed?
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> Good luck.
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