Posted by morgan miller on September 7, 2010, at 20:46:35
In reply to Re: biology vs psychology » morgan miller, posted by emmanuel98 on September 7, 2010, at 19:35:05
>The sadness was always there, I expect, but not the depression. That was an entirely different experience and had nothing whatsoever to do with being sad. I just felt dead inside. I had no hope and no interest in life, which was very unlike the rest of my life.
I have a friend that just started to experience physical anxiety. She admits that the anxiety was always lurking beneath the surface and due to changes in her life, she was no longer able to suppress it or distract herself from it so that she could not feel it.
>As far as AA'ers go, there's a very common story you hear in AA of well-loved, nurtured children who have close relationships with their parents but begin drinking/drugging at a young age to be cool and find they spiral out of control. These people tend to come in AA at quite a young age, often at 18 or 19. They're not burying deep dark secrets. They just can't handle mind-altering substances.
I thought you may be talking about younger people in AA. We may have to disagree on this, I don't believe anyone, child, teen or adult, becomes addicted to drugs or alcohol if there is not some void to fill. And if there is a void to fill, the parents did not do a complete job. They most likely did not give their children what they needed to be as confident as they could be and to love themselves as much as they could. If a child/teen has confidence, loves themselves, and feels loved, they will not continue to abuse drugs or alcohol. And I don't buy the old excuse that teens are just going to be teens and the parents can't positively influence them or could not have done anything in their childhood to positively influence them. I'm afraid it is likely that the people you speak of in AA were still in denial and may reach a point of enlightenment(hopefully) at some point in their adulthood. Like I mentioned before, there is a reason for denial and there is a reason why it is so powerful. Denial protects us in a way, but it also prevents us from seeing the truth and being able to heal and grow.
I just think we too often want a simple answer because simple answers are easier. Unfortunately, there are few simple answers, we just aren't that simple.
Morgan
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