Posted by europerep on July 9, 2010, at 16:23:13
In reply to Re: What's up for 10 years from now? » jade k, posted by jade k on July 7, 2010, at 20:31:43
hey jade..
sorry for replying to your question on my post earlier, I wasn't feeling that good - as you know ;) - and I was busy, and so on..
what I wrote was basically what came to my mind when someone mentioned genetic engineering, which made me think of children, kids, education, etc.. and of course when I said "if parents learned.." then this was with my parents in mind.. they were never "bad parents" at all, but for my mom especially certain things were always more important: how the family looked on the outside, her sons' success vs. the other children's success (esp. school-wise), whether her kids were perfectly socially integrated ("different" is BAD)...
this has caused me many, many problems, and I started distancing myself from my parents at a very young age.. I kind of feel like through what my mom did (or did not do), she has "waived" her right to actually be loved by me.. after some difficult years, and about a year where I did not have any contact with her at all, our relation is somewhat normalized now.. although she has hurt me very, very much, I do not want to hurt her "in retaliation".. she has had a difficult life herself, and I have to say that I doubt that, as an adult, she has actually ever been happy - at least I have never really seen her laugh, and there is not one photo where she is "authentically" smiling.. I see all that, and I don't want to cause her more problems, but at some point I am still very disappointed, and hurt by her actions and attitudes..of course, I see so many parents who show true affection for their children, and I am glad everytime I see it. I was certainly not going to rant against "parents" as a whole, but sometimes I have the impression that for some parents, children are not an end, but a means, through which they obtain something, and I find that very wrong.. are you a mother, jade? if so, then I am sure you are a great one :) and you are right of course, "if more parents learned to love their children, we would be a giant step further" is a better way to say it.. ;)
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