Posted by Honore on April 30, 2007, at 15:41:49
In reply to Sister is in crisis - don't know what to do, posted by JerryPharmStudent on April 30, 2007, at 2:45:13
Jerry, I really empathize with your desire to help your sister. But you've done all you can. She has to take the next, very difficult steps herself.
Meanwhile, you have-- and I really mean have-- to take care of yourself first. When you're feeling more stable, you can be there for her in a more sustained, involved way. But right now, you can't let her crisis eat away at your beginning to feel better, and your struggle to find an equilibrium where you're all right. It's a temptation that I understand, but it's important not to give in to it.
It doesn't mean you aren't there for her or don't care-- You do. But the best thing you can do for her, in the long run, is not let her suffering undermine your own progress and peace of mind. That's a cliche-- I know-- but sometimes it really is true.
You have too much to deal with right now to become emotionally torn up about her. You've done the right thing-- again-- it really is up to her to take the next step. Then maybe you can do more for her.
Honore
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