Posted by Jost on May 17, 2006, at 16:27:12
In reply to Re: What to do about Dad » stickywicket, posted by Larry Hoover on May 17, 2006, at 7:27:37
It's mostly a process of trial and error-- you don't want to overstep, but also not underestimate the help your father would accept--esp. if framed in a way that doesn't undermine his self-esteem.
. I'd call a doctor if I thought it would help. But there's an area of doctor-patient confidentiality that can complicate your working too much through his doctor. You might ask for permission to talk to the doctor, and for the doctor to talk to you. That would probably make the doctor more comfortable--esp. in letting you know where things stand.
I'd go as far, or a little further than I felt comfortable, and see if the person seemed receptive, or seemed to be closing down--not necessarily only at the moment, but in terms of thinking it over, and being able to use it later.
But if the situation was moving toward being a harmful one, I'd be more assertive-- and hope that the person could let me work for them,, even if not initially so willingly.
I'd just try things, and then step back, if it's too much, and be a little more moderate, but not give up--
It so much depends on how different people respond--sometimes you can take over a bit, sometimes, you have to chip away gradually--
Jost
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