Posted by Flame on May 1, 2006, at 8:56:50
I had another individual (from another BB) post to me in regards to getting the "feeling" that my husband is using his depression to manipulate me. If "depression" is even what my husband's diagnosis IS .. for sure.
I have received many awesome responses to all of my laments/concerns in regards to my husband and his "depression". And I truly appreciate all of you for being so supportive/understanding and willing to candidly "discuss" our (and even your own) issues!
I am wondering, though, if my husband is (honestly) depressed. I think that I have posted in my previous threads (Husband Giving Up) about how he is, EVEN when he claims to be depressed.
My husband IS the life of every party. Even now, at the bar every night, he is Mr. Socialite. He is a very animated person. (For being depressed, that is.) Also .. no matter if he is claiming big depression or not, is into a multitude of hobbies that he is obviously motivated to "do". This is what confounds me, though. He maintains that he doesn't have the wherewithal to work like he used to, but he DOES go all out on his hobbies. Some of which are very physical.
My husband always seems to be in good spirits, UNTIL something negative (in his mind) comes up. And then, to me, it appears like he just does not want to deal with it. He is always anxious to take the easy way out .. or not address the issues at all. (Which, ultimately, compounds the problems.)
Does this sound "right" to you folks?
I am wondering (based on our history) if he indeed may be using his "depression" to manipulate me.
Any thoughts from you wonderful people out there?
Thanks for putting up with (yet) another thread in regards to my rantings about my husband. ;-)
Flame
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