Posted by UgottaHaveHope on November 29, 2005, at 16:18:13
In reply to Re: There is such thing as a magic pill, posted by linkadge on November 29, 2005, at 15:15:56
In my opinion (and this is not fact), the medicine was and is a blessing to calm me down.
The next and most important step was working on my thought patterns. Not necessarily "thought exercises", but basically focusing on the things I have rather than not have. And then you have to work on your brain's interpretation of things, i.e. your thoughts, attitudes and beliefs.
For example, I picked up a new $400 stove for a friend at Home Depot. It fell out of my truck on the way back and was crushed by a 18 wheeler. I was really bummed, to the point I went to sleep. Then I transformed my thinking. Instead of being down, I thought about how BLESSED I was. This was a heavy stove and a week before in a neighboring city the same thing had happened and a car behind hit the stove and one person died. No one was injured in my mishap. On top of that, I got lucky because my insurance rates didnt go up. If a regular car wouldve hit it, I wouldve had a claim against me and be paying higher insurance rates for the next few years. This big 18 wheeler, it never stopped.
So when I transformed my thinking, I realized this was a lucky and blessed day for me. No one was injured or killed and material things (even expensive ones) can be replaced.
That's what you have to do ... to train your mind to look at things another way. Instead of saying "Aw man, my dream girl turned me down for a date" ... say "OK, I asked out my dream girl and she said No. But at least I had the guts to ask her and now know how she feels. I can live with striking out, but never trying is true failure."
OR "man, I hate this rainy weather" when you should sayt to yourself "you know what? my yard desperately needs this rain. It will make it grow better." etc, etc, etc. I could go and on.
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