Posted by jujube on December 21, 2004, at 20:29:40
In reply to Re: help, dont want to be here... jujube......., posted by woolav on December 21, 2004, at 20:13:03
I know that anything I say will seem hollow, but I do want to say that what we did in the past is in the past, and we should be able to forgive ourselves for our mistakes and move on from them. I know that is easier said than done, and I don't want to offend you or come across as trying to tell you what to do. It may be just me, but I find it is usually the kind, gentle souls who have a healthy and maybe overactive conscience, that seem most unable to forgive themselves. Forgiveness is part of the healing process, and, IMOH, you owe to yourself (nobody else) to let go of any self-loathing you have been harbouring. We are all worthy of love and respect, and the feeling of being needed and appreciated. And, even though your daughter is going off to college, she is still going to need her mom. The relationship may evolve somewhat, but a daughter always needs her mother. I moved out of the house when I was 18, but I have always stayed close to both of my parents (wasn't easy with my dad at first because of history), and feel that, as an adult, I have a friendship with my mom that is probably one of the most important friendships in my life.
Please take good care of yourself. If you need to talk, don't hesitate to babblemail me.
Tamara
> Thanks for your kind thoughts. I just feel like i cant get away from the demons of my past. I have alot of issues that no one understands. My father is dying, my daughter is growing up. I feel like when he is gone, and my daughter is off in college, i wont have 1 reason to stay here. I know i have to fight this, but its sooo hard. My grandmother killed herself when i was 2, and I never understood why she would do that to her family, but i do understand and that is what scares me now....
> I will try to hold on and keep fighting though.
> hugs. sandy
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