Posted by shadows721 on April 4, 2004, at 18:51:29
In reply to Re: i am lost and in pain, posted by shadows721 on April 4, 2004, at 15:38:29
I do remember vividly how much my heart ached to see this person that was abusive to me. But, I kept telling myself this person does not have my best interest at heart. They are like a bad habit or drug that I need to drop.
The way to get over a person is by replacement. It can be a hobbie, going out with friends, dating several others. You can just get out and go to the library and throw yourself into a book and another place. But, do not go back to someone who thinks they can hit on you like a punching bag. That shows lack of respect. They don't value you as a very important person. They have crossed the line and gotten physical. Don't allow them to blame it on the alcohol either. That's too easy. All that arguing is a bad sign too.
As the other post said, if this is a pattern for you, get help. If this is indeed a pattern, you may feel that you deserve no more than this. That's trash. You deserve to be treated with repect and not be involved with an abusive, lying, and argumentive mixed up lady. She needs to get herself help, but I doubt she will. This type of people tend to always blame their actions on someone else.
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