Posted by cmcdougall on May 2, 2002, at 14:44:46
In reply to Re: unhappy with my doc today » cmcdougall, posted by sid on May 2, 2002, at 12:57:52
> I tend to think: why fix it if it ain't broke? I have a LOT of work ahead of me, in the next couple of months, and I really don't want to mess with dosage changes and side effects if I don't have to.
Makes sense to me!
> > ps. The only time I believe that we should TRY to change is when our behaviors have a negative impact, either in our own lives or someone else's.
>
> I believe that too. I truly think that the best I can be is how I currently am.I am truly impressed. That is wonderful and as long as things are working for you, why pay for therapy? As I posted earlier, I don't get therapy very often, only every 5 or 10 yrs. I go to my pdoc every 3 to 6 months just for med checks.
>From most people's point of view, it's not right to spend your life alone, but from my point of view, it's the right thing to do. My doc apparently belongs to the most-people-club, and she wants me to join it too. It seems to me I'm making a personal choice and it's nobody's business but mine.
I agree. If no one is being hurt, especially you, people should back off. I am 46 years old and have finally learned that having a lot of friends is mostly superficial. It is fine to be acquainted w/ people and have fun with them, but I have learned the hard way that we have only a few "real" friends in our entire life. People come in and out of our experience, but only 2 or 3 will really love us, disregard our flaws, and forgive our foibles.
Perhaps your doc doesn't realize how content you are and how full your life really is. You have explained very clearly to me how you feel, and I had no problem understanding it. IMO, your attitude seems very healthy.
>Geez. I might wanna try being, I don't know, a swinger or something, it is best accepted nowadays than being single and celibate.
Don't go there! Masturbation is safer - Its certainly less work. ;-)
>I have so many interests, I do stuff all the time, I'm NEVER bored (especially now that I'm not depressed anymore). Few people can say that, I consider myself lucky. I don't see a problem in my life, but it does bother most people that I don't fit in the couple-family mold. I'm starting to believe Sartre: "Hell is others." I'm perfectly fine with myself, if only people can let me be.
At your next visit, tell your doctor that you have a wonderful best friend and lover that is committed to you forever. Someone who accepts you the way are and takes good care of you. Someone who supports you and takes you wherever you want to go. Someone who shares all your interests and is committed to your wellbeing. When she express delight, tell her that you are your own best friend and that you are happy and content.
I love myself too, but I don't treat myself as good as I should. I don't take care of myself all the time, but I get great help from this board.
Lots more love and luck,
Carly
poster:cmcdougall
thread:104752
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/20020425/msgs/104795.html