Posted by hon on May 18, 2001, at 15:11:03
In reply to Therapist Relationship, posted by Kay on May 17, 2000, at 14:35:15
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> > Alan, it isn't just that there's using drugs to get us better. They care unconditionally which means a lot. They don't ask anything back. That's a powerful magnet, since most people in our lives want things from us.--Cindy W
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> Cindy, I was interested to hear you say your therapist doesn't ask anything back. I feel like my therapist is another one of those "should" voices in my head.
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> For instance, he knows me well enough to activate me through making me feel guilty if I don't do what he recommends. (He once told me if I didn't do what he told me to, he'd have a hard time convincing my insurance company to continue to pay for my treatment.)
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> Kay
Kay,
I think what you just said is horrible. No therapist should manipulate you or use his power to get you to do things. Even if those things are ultimately what is best for you. These are the decesions you must make for yourself. Many of us enter therapy because we cannot make these decisions for ourselves & it is our therapists job to help us understand why we cannot make them & how we can change that. IT IS NEVER their job to push us into doing something we do not want to do. With the exception of convincing a suicidal patient not to kill themselves. GET A NEW THERAPIST please for your own good.
Jennifer
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