Posted by Lisa Simpson on February 20, 2001, at 6:38:02
(Noa, I know you don't like reading long posts at the moment, but if you could possibly read this one, I feel sure your advice would be so helpful to me... as it has in the past to me and so many others. Thank you so much.)
My boss's wife has had mental troubles for years. First of all it was diagnosed as ME. Then they said manic depression. The last diagnosis I believe was bipolar. Well, a few months ago she was put on Lithium, and it seemed to do a power of good. She was much better, although she had stages of mania.
She started having an episode of mania about five weeks ago, which didn't start to level off. Her pdoc tried her on a new drug to calm her down(I don't know the name), and she woke up screaming and hysterical the following morning, so obviously she won't take any more.
Anyway, last Thursday she phoned her husband in the office and asked to meet him in a pub. When he got there, she was completely off the wall. Throwing things around, apparently, shouting and screaming and stuff like that. And she didn't want her husband near her. When her husband phoned me to let me know what was happening, I offered to come down. He agreed, because most of her friends now have little to do with her, because once she starts talking, she doesn't stop, and I'm afraid their patience has slowly dwindled. Also, the things she says are very scary, and she tells you stuff about private things that you don't really want to know. I, on the other hand, being a "captive audience" as it were! as I work with her husband, have always been there to listen to her, and give what little advice I could. Anyway, I went down to the pub and when she saw me she fell into my arms crying. She kept saying that the two plastic bags she had with her had cigarette packets in it, and she said her husband had put a bomb in one. I offered to take the bags from her, and after a very, very long time, she finally agreed to let me take care of them for her. I then tried to get her into the pub to have a quiet drink together, but they refused her entry in no uncertain terms! I took her into a cafe, and she kept acting strangely - saying things you couldn't make sense of. Asking the people in the cafe for a gin, and couldn't understand that they didn't serve alcohol. Walking to someone's table, and helping herself to their cigarettes without asking. And she didn't want her husband anyhwere near her. So he just stayed outside, and followed us as we came out of the cafe and walked for miles together, with a policeman beside us, and one following with her husband in a van. (They had been called an hour ago.) They were waiting for a social worker, as they had no authority to do anything themselves. We finally arrived back at her house, and the policeman suggested we got into the van as it was very cold outside. He wouldn't let her into the house, and she wouldn't go anyway, because her husband was in it. She said she would get in the van if I did. So we both got in. After a long wait, the social worker finally arrived, and after talking with her husband, she came up to her and informed her she was being committed into hospital. She started getting upset, turned to me and said "I thought I could trust you". The social worker quickly said it wasn't anything to do with me, but with her - the social worker - and the pyschiatrist. Then she shut the van door, and we were off. It was awful - I felt so bad.
Anyhow, she is now in hospital, and trying her best to get out. She keeps phoning me. All the time. She keeps asking me to contact a solicitor to get her out of there. (I believe she is initially committed for 28 days.)
My question (sorry about the length of this post!) is what can I do to help her? What can I say to put her mind at rest? I really feel quite helpless, and don't know what to do. Any suggestions? Sorry to lumber you all with all this, but it is all very upsetting, and I haven't known how to deal with my own problems, let along my boss's wife's! And I do really want to help her...
Thanks everyone.
Lisa
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thread:54449
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